Respect A Caregiver Time

Just a Little Bit of Respect

If your caregiver doesn’t feel respected, he or she is not going to feel good about the job. And unless your caregiver is a saint, these negative thoughts will float down to your child. Thank your caregiver for doing a good job and be considerate of your caregiver’s feelings and time. Like everyone else who works, your caregiver wants to know that his or her efforts are noticed and that you have faith in him or her.

Parents sometimes lose sight of the fact that their caregiver is not merely an employee. If you trust your caregiver with your child, don’t ask for receipts for everything he or she buys for your house. Or, if you come home early and want some time alone with your toddler, don’t make your caregiver stay on until the end of the official workday, as if using a time card.

Although many mothers say that they are much more involved in the caregiver relationship than are their husbands, caregivers expect to be treated with respect by both parents. One caregiver felt incredibly hurt by the following incident: “I twisted my ankle on my way to work. It hurt terribly all day. At five o’clock the husband walked in and saw me with my leg up on a chair. He barely said hello. I could tell he was angry. The next day the wife asked me why I seemed to be sleeping on the job. I felt very bad that the father couldn’t confront me himself. I thought we had a good relationship.”

Making Your Caregiver Feel That He or She Counts

Have your caregiver’s wages ready on payday.
Come home when expected.
Give enough advance notice about your vacations for your caregiver to plan time off as well.
Don’t let your child put the caregiver in a humiliating situation. For example, don’t let your toddler have food fights with his older sister and then expect the caregiver to clean up.
Be sure that both you and your partner greet your caregiver each morning.
If you work at home, don’t interfere constantly.
Let your toddler know that he must listen to the caregiver’s nos.
Let the caregiver know in advance when you make playdates.
Ask whether your caregiver minds having playdates with parents rather than with other caregivers.
Leave emergency and daily money.
Have food for your caregiver to eat.
Ask your caregiver about his or her own family.

6 Powerful Steps That Help the Young Spouse Take the Role of Caregiver

The National Family Caregivers Association states that 48% of caregivers care for a spouse or partner. A caregiver dealing with chronic illness or disability may find themselves in an unanticipated situation of great responsibility. The circumstance is aggravated for young spousal caregivers as they manage multiple roles such as the parent of young children, employee, and home maintainer and of course spouse and caregiver. Fulfilling these roles is a challenge and there are other factors which may affect how well the caregiver can execute them. Spousal caregivers face unique challenges as no other type of caregiving involves the same degree of intimacy. The young caregiver is also challenged by age, maturity and strength of the relationship, personal experience and his or her expectations.

These are 6 powerful steps to be taken if the young caregiver wants provide a more effective, less stressful and more fulfilling care to the loved one.

1. Make an honest self-assessment of your own strengths and weaknesses; emotional, physical and mental. This must be done in writing using all available media and resources that will produce a clear, concrete analysis of the personal situation and fitness to proceed. This must include every integral part of the caregiver or potential caregiver’s life. From employment status, financial responsibilities, children and personal health; all must be accounted for and put in writing. This shall also include personal life expectations and plans for the future. Limitations must be acknowledged and concrete plans to address them must be made.

2. Have an open, honest conversation with the partner in need. This should include diagnosis, prognosis, treatment and life expectancy if known. Issues such as finances, insurance policies, will and advanced directives must be discussed and be cleared. Final arrangements such as funeral must be included in this conversation if in order or appropriate. This conversation must also address how intimacy and sexual and emotional needs will be met. This aspect of care giving could be one of the most challenging and the cause of great stress and emotional pain during the care giving experience especially for the young caregiver.

3. Take inventory of all the available resources that could be of help or assistance. Reach out to family members, friends, church, support groups and other organizations. Research and make a list of all community services and organizations available including web sites, phone numbers and contact person’s name. Keep the list available for immediate reference if needed. Create a record with names, phone numbers, email address and other important information of all those that have offered help or are known that will provide help. Be specific on the type, frequency and duration of the help offered, such as picking children from school, taking children to sports practice or dance classes, grocery shopping or accompanying patient to doctor’s appointments. Make the person or persons accountable for the help offered. Keep track of available help. This should include name, date, time and duration and type of help. Learn to ask and accept help.

Caregiver resources:

NFCA – National Family Caregivers Association
WSA – Well Spouse Association
EA – Elder Care Advocates
NIA – National Institute on Aging
AOA – Administration On Aging
NAC – National Alliance for Caregivers

4. Learn and develop time management skills. From the time the caregiver initiates its journey, effective time management will be its best asset. Calendars, schedules and notes should be part of the daily routine. Knowing in advance what, where, when and who will reduce by a great deal the incidents of chaos and crisis. Everything must be written or entered in some kind of tracking system such as the computer or phone calendar or alert system. Make good use of Yahoo or Google calendars and organize the daily routine. Different calendars could be set up for different uses. It is of paramount importance that every aspect of the daily routine is accounted for and a realistic time that each task will take to be accomplished. This must include time to do nothing, time to recharge, regroup thoughts and to rejuvenate. This will help not only the caregiver but also those that will assist and provide help. The person or persons helping should have a clear idea on what needs to be done and how long will it take.

5. Take charge and be ready to make changes and make adjustments in all areas of life. If employed, the caregiver shall have a conversation with his or her immediate manager or human resources representative at the place of employment; present the situation, be honest, assertive and flexible. Explore the possibilities for shift adjustment, reducing work hours or taking accrued vacation time or a leave of absence. Another option for the employed caregiver could be the Family Medical Leave Act or FMLA created in 1993 to assist certain workers in the United States to meet their obligations of caring for a sick family member. Not every worker is covered under this act or eligible for its benefits. The caregiver must speak with the employer to ascertain eligibility.

6. Recognize and admit life’s fragility. Make time for nurturing the spirit and the mind. Share the time available with loved ones and create memories. Take time to reconnect with self and others. Write or read a book, a poem or listen to music. Look at the sky and count the stars or take a walk under the rain. At the end nobody is certain how much time is left. Be the best caregiver that you could be.

Ileana Perez is a Registered Nurse, a Certified Health Coach, and a Health Educator. Having served as the caregiver of her late parents, Ileana knows firsthand the struggles that a caregiver faces while providing for the elderly.

Survive Caregiver Stress and Burnout

The need to raise survival rates among caregivers aged sixty-five and over who care for loved ones with dementia and Alzheimer’s is urgent. Why? A significant number die before they’re finished caregiving.

Symptoms of Caregiver Stress or Burnout

Shortened patience, lengthened anger.
Inability to sleep.
Caregiver Dementia
Drinking and/or smoking more or self-medicating.
Denying there’s anything wrong with loved one.
Denying the need for help.
Hopelessness, ongoing depression.
Eating poorly.

The average length of time a caregiver cares for a loved one with Alzheimer’s is six and one-half years. That’s 2,373 days. It’s hard to hold onto hope that things will get better when you’re facing an uncertain time frame.

Remember, those stress surveys from the late seventies and early eighties? I recall a condensed list of 25 stressful life events. We were instructed to place a check mark by each event that occurred to us within the past year. Among the 25 events were the following.

Death of a Loved One
Marital separation or Divorce
Financial difficulties
Job Loss
Geographical relocation
Family conflict
Illness in the family

Back then when life was more stable (even during those double-digit inflationary years), the assessment tool instructed us that checking more than two items meant we were suffering from high levels of stress and should seek help. Can you imagine? Today, we could easily check five or ten! The difference surely paints a picture of living with greater stress, today.

Examples of Caregiver Stress

Below are a few examples of caregiver stress and burnout.

LACK of SLEEP

While my father lived in our California home, we lay awake nights because he would get disoriented between night and day and wander. He’d jiggle the door knob of our bedroom door, which we were advised to lock most nights in order to catch up on lost sleep.

Burdened by worries, I lay awake most nights. There was so much to do that I feared I wouldn’t remember it all. (I had a calendar and I wrote lots of To Dos, but when that spark of an idea strikes in the middle of the night, I didn’t want to forget!)

LOST PATIENCE LEADING to ANGER

My father would go through stubborn phases. With my husband David helping me, we had an outlet in each other. We were able to temper our anger but when we grew so exhausted and couldn’t, we did things that turned out to be funny.

One afternoon, after my father threw a tantrum and demanded that David show him his room, I followed them down the hall when the urge hit to strangle my father. I called out “David” so my deaf father could not hear. When my husband turned to look he began to laugh seeing my fingers loosely around my father’s neck. Confused by David’s laughter, my father stopped to look and then turned back to see me. Feigning innocence, my guilt-ridden smile confused my father who looked back at David laughing. Then he began to smile. Surprised by his sudden shift of emotions, I too began to laugh until we were all laughing!

I do not recommend hurting your loved one. I placed my hands loosely around my father’s neck to see what David’s reaction might be. The laughter that followed diverted a stressful moment, giving us a constructive outlet to redirect mounting frustrations. But, what if I were the only caregiver and didn’t have a support partner like David? It is easy to see how one caregiver can grow exhausted and lose patience and even grow angry.

EATING POORLY

Like us, most caregivers don’t take care of themselves as they should.

David and I made sure to sit with my father and eat well-prepared balanced meals since we were concerned about his nutrition. Isn’t this sad? We care more for others than ourselves.
After we placed my father, we went back to our old ways of one meal a day. This was not an ideal arrangement to maintain our strength as caregivers. Despite not having 24-hour responsibility for my father’s care, we still felt tethered to him.

CAREGIVER DEMENTIA

Just as people with Alzheimer’s suffer memory loss, get disoriented, and even hallucinate, so did we! The label, caregiver dementia, is used to describe Alzheimer’s-like symptoms experienced by caregivers.

David began hallucinating. David wrote letters to me while I was on travel. They were frightening as he detailed the night he felt pinned down under the bed covers and people taking his things (a common complaint of those with dementia). I was not immune either. I backed into the garage door three times, destroying two power antennas, and needing one back-end repair and one new garage door.

Although, it is normal for caregivers to experience stress and burnout, you don’t have to suffer.

We grew more and more exhausted each day and realized something must be done for my father’s and our safety. David and I started showing signs of Alzheimer’s trying to keep up with my father’s care!

Fortunately, we explored our options. After considering in-home care (I worked out of our small home and needed quiet concentration time), board and care (not secured and my wandering father might get out and not return), assisted living (at least 50 miles away at the time), and nursing care, we settled on the last–a secure facility that would look after my father 24/7.

Consider this: What use will you be as a caregiver for your loved one if your stress and burnout is so severe, you won’t be here for long?

Caregiver Stress

Caring for senior citizens or disabled individuals can be difficult and often results in emotional and physical strain known as caregiver stress. This stress can cause one to feel frustrated or angry, guilty, lonely, and exhausted. And, although caregivers are generally in good health, research indicates that caregivers are more likely to experience depression and anxiety, have higher levels of stress-induced hormones, and have a higher incidence of obesity. Still, one research study has found a difference in health between caregivers who felt stressed and those who did not. Senior citizens who felt stressed as a result of taking care of a disabled spouse were more likely to die within four years of the study than their counterparts who did not feel stressed. For reasons like this, it is important that caregivers providing elder care or care for a disabled individual understand how to avoid and cope with caregiver stress.

Symptoms

If you are caregiver it is likely that have caregiver stress if you experience the following symptoms:

Altered sleeping habits
Weight loss or gain
Constantly feeling worried, overwhelmed, or sad
Being irritable and easily angered
Frequent and unexplainable headaches or other bodily pain

If you feel like physically or emotionally harming yourself or the person you are caring for, talk to your doctor immediately. He or she will be able to refer you to a health care specialist that can help.

Preventing and Alleviating Stress

Caregiver stress is associated with many serious health problems and should never be dismissed as “just stress.” Rather it is important that those providing care for senior citizens or disabled individuals take steps to reduce their stress.

If you feel like physically or emotionally harming yourself or the person you are caring for, talk to your doctor immediately. He or she will be able to refer you to a health care specialist that can help.

Preventing and Alleviating Stress

Caregiver stress is associated with many serious health problems and should never be dismissed as “just stress.” Rather it is important that those providing care for senior citizens or disabled individuals take steps to reduce their stress.

Taking a problem-solving approach to caring for others helps to decrease stress. For example, if someone with Alzheimer’s continues to ask the same question again and again, answer the question but then redirect him or her. Say something like “Lets get this laundry started,” or include the person in a simple task like folding clothes.

If you are caring for someone with a certain disease or disability, be sure you understand their condition. Use your doctor, the library, or the Internet to educate yourself. Also, your hospital or doctor’s office may give classes that teach you how to take care of someone with the condition your loved one has.

Tips for Reducing Stress

Research and use community resources that are available for both the person being cared for and the caregiver.
Do not be afraid to ask for and accept help. Often, friends and family members are willing to provide assistance like taking the elderly or disabled person on a walk once a week or picking up groceries for you.
Ask family members to contribute to the costs of taking care of the relative who needs help.
Say “no” when necessary, it is important not to take on too much responsibility that can lead to additional stress.
Identify what you are able to change and what you cannot. You cannot change another’s behavior, but you can change how you respond to it.
Do not take on too much at once. Rather, break big tasks up into smaller steps and set realistic goals that you can stick to.
If you begin to feel guilty, remind yourself that there is no such thing as a perfect caregiver and you are doing your best.
Establish a daily routine and make prioritized “to do” lists.
Stay connected with friends and family members, and make time each week to spend time with others in a capacity that is relaxing and enjoyable for you.
Join a support group for caregivers; it can help remind you that you are not alone. Also, other caregivers can offer support and advice for how to cope with what you are going through.
Finally, take care of yourself. Eat well-balanced meals, maintain a healthy weight, and get enough sleep. Talk with your doctor about any sickness or feelings of depression or anxiety that you may be experiencing.

Taking a BreakSometimes, it may be necessary to take a break from caregiving to reduce stress. Respite care provides relief services for people who need rest after caring for others. There are various types including:

In-home Respite Care. This type of elder care generally involves in home health care services from companionship to nursing.
Adult Day Care. This type of elder care is often held in community centers, and sometimes transportation to and from the center is provided.
Short-term Nursing Homes. These types of nursing homes provide care for senior citizens over the short-term and are useful when a caregiver has to go out of town for few weeks.

If you are feeling overwhelmed working and taking care of a relative, it may be helpful to take a break from your work. Ask Human Resources about different options for taking leave. The federal Family and Medical Leave Act allows one to take as much as 12 weeks of unpaid leave to care for a loved one.

Hiring an in home health aide will also ensure your loved one is cared for, if you cannot always be there or provide the care yourself. Home health aides can provide care for as little as a few hours a week to 24 hours a day. They provide assistance with personal care, like bathing or brushing teeth. They offer housekeeping services, like laundry and light cleaning. They also act as companions providing social interaction. Finally, they assist with administering medications and other treatments. You can hire a home health aide through an in home health care agency or independently, generally independent caregivers are less expensive.

Caregiving Services in your Community

Asking your doctor or case manager about resources in your community is a good place to begin locating additional caregiving services. Some of these services may be free while others require payment. Local churches, synagogues, and community centers may give free services for senior citizens or disabled individuals. The government also provides many benefits at the federal, state, and local levels for senior citizen elder care and care for disabled individuals. To find out more about these, you can contact your local Area Agency on Aging. You can also look into respite care or in home health care services available in your area in your phone book.

Paying for Home Health Care and Other Caregiving Services

Medicare, Medicaid, private “Medigap” policies or health insurance, or long-term care insurance may cover some of costs of in home health care. Other costs will have to be paid for out of pocket.

In home health care costs depend on the services you use. Non-medical workers like companions or housekeepers are much less expensive than medical workers like nurses. Also, the cost of using in home health care agencies vary, but is generally more expensive than using an independent caregiver.

In addition to Medicare and Medicaid, the federal government provides the National Family Caregiver Support Program. This program helps states to provide services for caregivers. Every state offers different types of services, many include respite care, support groups, individual counseling, caregiver training, and help accessing additional benefits. To be eligible, a caregiver must:

Provide care for a senior citizen at least 60 years of age or older
Provide care for or any person with Alzheimer’s disease
Be at least 55 years of age and provide the primary care for a child under the age of 18
Be at least 55 years of age and provide the primary care for a disabled adult aged 18 to 59 years old

Avoid Problems With In-Home Caregivers

With aging comes the strong likelihood that we will need a caregiver; someone to help with daily tasks and personal hygiene. Often it is not practical for family members and friends to provide all the assistance that a loved one needs. Finding a caregiver usually falls on females in the family as they are the main caregivers.

Care provider agencies provide this type of assistance. However the transition can be fraught with frustration when family members make incorrect assumptions that caregivers are trained, trustworthy and do not need supervision. Additionally in many cases, the person needing the care resists the idea and can cause difficulties in initially making the transition to accepting care. Many times the agency caregiving relationship is misconstrued as a family relationship versus an employer to employee relationship and individuals receiving care often cross the boundary creating issues that result in situations of potential conflict of interest, safety or abuse.

Meet the company owner. Establish a relationship with the owner and the supervisor of the home care agency to create an environment that supports open communication about concerns, possible solutions and alternatives. Request the educational background of the company owner and ask why they are qualified to provide this service? Never hesitate to call with issues. Ask how often they will contact YOU to request feedback. You should receive a personal call immediately after initiation of services and then on a regular schedule not to exceed 90 days.

Ask for qualifications. Request a copy of the company liability and workers compensation insurance. Ask if caregivers are background checked and what specifically is checked for example criminal background, driving record, credit background, drug testing. If the agency runs only a criminal background check they may be missing a poor driving record that may indicate irresponsible behavior, substance abuse or a credit record that may indicate poor money management. Issues with any or all of these may potentially expose your family member to issues of safety, abuse or neglect.

How is time kept and billed? Companies with a high degree of supervision use automated time and attendance systems whereby the caregiver calls in from the home of the client and calls out when leaving. This serves as a time clock to ensure that you are not being billed for time the caregiver is not in the home. It also alerts the agency if their caregiver does not show up to work as scheduled. Paper systems are more commonly used, however if this is the case request a copy to be included with your invoice so you can review the information.

Do not cause issues for your caregiver. I have often witnessed clients telling their caregivers to leave a shift early but not to mark time accurately so they are paid for the entire shift. This causes issues of dishonesty for the caregiver who knowingly falsifies paperwork at the request of the client. Be a good client and don’t cause these issues for your caregiver or their agency.

Create a task list. Many times the individual receiving care cannot make a task list for the caregiver often resulting in unproductive time. Make a list for the caregiver and your parent or family member. Share this with the agency to make your expectations clear and to ensure that the agency can provide the assistance needed. Some agencies provide companionship only and not other caregiving tasks, know which you are hiring.

Put together a photo album or a journal describing your loved one’s life, interests, accomplishments, family and friends. Providing a history for caregivers invites them to bring a genuine understanding of the care they are providing. Or better, yet, make this a project that your loved one and the caregiver can do together to validate the importance of the life lived by your family member.

Maintain a professional relationship. No matter how close you or your loved one becomes with the hired caregiver the caregiver is NOT your family. By creating and maintaining a professional relationship you ensure results that are in your best interest and avoid the potential of financial or personal abuse. Never, except at the holiday when it can be documented and approved by the agency, give gifts, tips, unused household items as you are training the caregiver that accepting items is okay. IT IS NOT!

By instituting these tips you might feel as though you are personally training the agency and caregiver. You are! Each individual and situation is different and many hired caregivers are average people without extensive training.

It is important to create an outline of the care you expect; adult caregiving can be difficult and challenging and is definitely not for everyone. If you are dissatisfied with your caregiver contact that agency and request a replacement. The best way to provide quality of care for your loved one is to establish a genuine understanding expected outcomes of the care being provided and the implementation of professional boundaries.

Helping Caregivers, by Listening, Advocating, and Sharing Hope

To Help Eldercaregivers, Practice Listening, Advocating, and Sharing Hope

When a friend, family member, or neighbor accepts the responsibility of caring for an elderly relative or friend, many of us automatically look for a way to help and find we don’t know what kind of assistance to offer. If you have a friend or neighbor who is caring for a parent, grandmother, aunt, or elderly spouse and want to offer your support, begin with these recommendations and let your imagination create others.

1. Call and ask the caregiver how the patient AND the caregiver are feeling. Most people ask only about the ill person, forgetting that it’s equally important to care for the caregiver. Studies show those caring for an elderly parent or relative suffer higher levels of stress, anxiety, and illnesses than non-caregivers. You can help add comfort to the harsh emotional and physical burdens of the daily caregiving routine by a simple act of recognition-remembering to ask the caregiver, “How are you holding up?”

2. If you have to leave a voice-mail message, don’t ask the caregiver or ill person to “call me back.” Caregivers are usually overwhelmed with daily chores and responsibilities. Asking for a call back just adds another obligation to their “to do” list. Instead, say, “Don’t worry about calling me back. Just know I’m thinking of you and I’ll call you back another time. If you need a shoulder, or just want to vent, I’m here for you.” Instead of adding another item to the caregiver’s long “to do” list, you’ve sent a message of friendship and compassion. Remember, you’ve made a promise, so be sure and call back within a day or two.

3. Your time may be the most practical and valued gift of all. Let the caregiver know you’re going to the grocery store on Tuesday and offer to pick up her groceries while you’re there. Be sure and get a list and ask if specific brands are important. Ditto for dry cleaning, prescriptions, or other errands. When you prepare dinner for yourself or your family, it takes very little time to cook extra portions, freeze them and drop off a bag of dinners as often as you can.

4. If you’re comfortable sitting with the patient for a few hours, offer your time so the caregiver can leave the house and take a break. Be frank about you will do and what you don’t want to do: You may be comfortable reading to the patient, or watching TV with her, but uncomfortable feeding or toileting her. Explain your feelings, saying, “Pat, I want this to work out well so I can offer to help again. I’m happy to sit with your mom, read to her, or watch TV with her, but I’m too uncomfortable to help with any hands-on assistance. I’d also like to be sure I can reach you if I have a problem. Is that okay with you?

5. Resist the urge to tell the caregiver horror stories about your cousin or friend’s aunt who went through the same or a similar illness. Third or fourth hand medical stories, particularly those told by lay people, are rarely accurate. We all react to medical problems differently. Your cousin might have had an adverse reaction to a medication that someone else tolerates without incident. Or, your friend’s aunt may have hallucinated after she took an over-the-counter product that millions of other people found beneficial without incident. Don’t add fear and dread to the caregiver’s already considerable worries.

6. Recognize that when illness strikes, family members or caregivers may be so overwhelmed that they cannot help themselves or their loved ones. At those times, they need an advocate. You can provide emotional and practical help by helping them find one. Log on to the Internet and find out what resources are available for the caregiver and patient. Look for treatments, medical centers, support groups, general information, medical trials, time saving tips, caregiver bulletin boards and advice from illness-related groups, then print the information out and give or send it to the caregiver. If you find information you believe is particularly important, highlight it. If the caregiver doesn’t use it, don’t press the subject, just let it go and feel good about yourself for trying to help.

7. Say something encouraging or warming. You don’t have to reach for what to say, the answer is all around you. Medical science is now reaping the reward of decades of research and is continually blessing us with new and better treatments, sometimes cures that enable patients to manage many medical problems while maintaining a satisfactory quality of life. So tell your friend to have hope for the future, because tomorrow or the next day, the doctor might call – as he did for my sister a few months ago – and say, “We’ve got something new for you. Come on in.” And when my sister met with the specialist, the “new, improved” medication” worked for her and improved her life dramatically. Never give up. My sister had been waiting for ten years.

8. Finally, be available to listen. Caregiver’s often feel bewildered, overburdened, afraid, and alone. Learn to sit still and listen. Remember this isn’t about you and your experiences or beliefs. This is about the caregiver you’re there to help. Aside from an accurate diagnosis and medical treatment, nothing is as important as a trusted friend who will take the time to listen to fears and innermost thoughts. Don’t pass judgment by trying to change the caregiver’s grief, fear, anger, or guilt – you can’t feel them or understand them from her perspective and it’s unlikely you have the training to suggest how the caregiver should or shouldn’t feel.

A caregiver friend of mine recently said, “I’m not so much stunned about today as I am about the future. Oh my God. What he’s been through and what he’ll go through. One of the things that keeps me going is what you told me years ago about new treatments being available every day.” They are. Be a friend. Practice sharing hope.

For more information on Eldercare and a guide to the decisions eldercare givers face on a daily basis you can visit [http://eldercare911answers.com] for guidence from Judie Rappaport and Sue Beerman, Co-Authors of the best selling Eldercare911.

A Rhapsody in Every Touch

A tap on the back is not enough after through a tough day. Perhaps a sensual and alluring touch can calm you down.

There are just so many things we can do in a day. There are eighty-six thousand four hundred seconds we could use up to do our daily routines. Within this span of time, we can do things that can be of good use, be productive and make it worthwhile or just be aimless and however we want it to, and somehow, we can’t even use it all up because we also need time to sleep and replenish the energy spent.

Work can be the most straining thing one would ever want to have. Deadlines to meet, family issues, demanding boss and co-workers, and financial problems are just some of the things that can trigger stress. After going through a tough and exhausting day, when everyone deserves a tap on the back, a sensual touch is very helpful to calm down the stressed body and mind. As a human being, a passionate touch on the body is very important. Through this, people feels hooked up and love by the people around them. And nothing feels better than after having a massage therapy.

Stress, as defined in the dictionary, is a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from the adverse or very demanding circumstances. It is also a combination of science and art. Massage therapy is the oldest form of medical treatment which was first known in China and was the primary method to treat and relieve pain. Hippocrates was the first physician who taught his fellow physicians on the benefits of rubbing. According to a massage review, massage therapy can help the living relax. Why? Human beings, complex as we are, are blessed with complex anatomy. Let’s take a peek on science. Our nervous system is composed of sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system. You may be wondering what does these have to do with massage therapy. Well, sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system is just like “rest” and “digest”. Rest pertains to parasympathetic nervous system while digest pertains to sympathetic nervous system. In a broader sense, sympathetic nervous system works when we are restless because of stress. Parasympathetic works when we are at rest. Get the picture? So after a long day, we go home, stressed and weary, that’s when the body discharge sympathetic nervous system. When someone gives a sensual rub on your body, that’s when our body discharge parasympathetic nervous system. Now, you’ve got insights on how massage works. Now, the real deal of this article is how touching can make anyone feel ecstatic. Touch can be the most important thing that is a part of human living. It makes people feel loved and connected. How does touching makes a person feel ecstatic then? Through erotic review.

At this moment in time, massage review go in different directions. Almost every corner of the world there is a massage review and roughly, it offers different types of massage therapy along with the expert and well-trained massage therapist. Massage review can also be found in tourism office in some selected countries like Thailand. There are a lot of kinds of massage therapy. Craniofacial massage therapy which improves the capacity of your brain and spinal cord, Esalen massage which teaches sensory awakening, shiatsu which helps prevent stress build-up, deep tissue massage which helps free up chronic muscle tension, and Erotic review which helps a person become sexually sensitive. Shiatsu, a traditional Japanese massage which comes to the aid of healing specific injuries, back pains headaches or migraines, stiffed neck, depression and sports injuries. Shiatsu can be of big help to women suffering from menstrual problems, to people having digestive problems and asthmatic symptoms. Neuromuscular massage therapy is a pressure therapy which breaks the stress-tension-pain cycle; Myotherapy massage helps relieve muscle spasms and cramps. Jin Shi Do (compassionate spirit) massage therapy improves blood circulation, stabilize emotions and heighten the spiritual state of being. Hakomi is another type of massage therapy where massage therapists use special states of consciousness. A holistic approach to natural health care, the polarity therapy, features the natural energy flow and balance in the human body is the vital foundation of health. Massage therapist in this type of massage are caregivers. Reiki (universal life-force energy) is a type of massage therapy where the massage therapist gets to be the channel of universal energy. Watsu or water shiatsu, mainly, the massage therapist keeps you on the surface of a warm pool while you are swaying and moving. Thai massage which is practiced for over two thousand and five hundred years. Through this, massage review, the economic status of some countries did boost up and for some men and women make it for living just like the massage therapist. And because of that, the demand for massage review is increasing from time to time and everybody can be a part of this business. The massage review for some is an ancient art that if a person undergoes in this sensual massage can never to have suffered from any health problems. In general, people used the old way of healing or curing different illnesses and make free of the ponderous burden in life. For all that, in some instances traditional methods can be of no use and this is the time when off the beaten track healing methods can come into play.

Erotic review is a form of massage which involves the mind, body, soul, emotions, pleasure and healing. Erotic review grants the whole body a whole lot of erotic experience and puts oneself in a fugue state. Erotic review builds up sensitivity and sensuality. Sex can also be considered as an art. Sex is normal. Sex can also be addictive and for some it is their life. An expression of what they really feel inside but one thing’s for sure, people who get into this thing, sex, will surely experience an out of the ordinary feeling. Anyway, let’s not make sex a big deal on this because erotic review can be a form of foreplay without the actual sexual intercourse. The real deal is that it is an Erotic review massage therapy, an art that stirs up oneself sexual energy. It has a lot of medical benefits and helps in the well-being of the people who had undergone the process. Research studies shows that massage lowers blood pressure, reduces heart rates, relaxes muscles, stress relief, managing anxiety and depression, sports-related injuries, boosting immunity, restores balance in the flow of body energy by stimulating energy lines and points, enhances the health and nourishment of skin, improves posture, fosters peace of mind, Enhances capacity for calm thinking and creativity, Creates body awareness, Promotes a relaxed state of mental alertness, Fosters faster healing of strained muscles and sprained ligaments; reduces pain and swelling; reduces formation of excessive scar tissue, improves ability to monitor stress signals and respond appropriately and other medical treatments. Erotic review may be put to use as a sex therapy or to put it in another way, it will hike up the stimulus of a person to quickly respond during sexual intercourse. Erotic review can also help women suffering from hysteria. Erotic review can also help in treating people who cannot achieve arousal easily or cannot respond positively to sensual stimulus. Erotic review is also termed “happy ending” by massage therapists, where everything seems insignificant like time past from sight, worries, struggles in life as well as problems will no longer seem to be in existence and stress will surely diminish. Both men and women could experience an awesome erotic review. In some countries, erotic review is rampant and legal. There are a lot of kinds of erotic review. One example is tantra.

At the present, there are over one hundred thousand massage therapists practicing in the United States alone. Schools, institutions, and states recommend massage therapy programs of at least five hundred hours training while training requirements vary. The massage therapist of an erotic review can be physicians, midwives or even life partners. Apart from rubbing or touching a person’s body, a massage therapist also a middle ground of caring, comforting and bring into being the sense of deep connections with them. Erotic review can be a good sense of communication between partners while undergoing the process or lovemaking. The massage therapist features erotic review massage therapy in the erogenous zones of the body like for example the genitals to give the client a sexual arousal. In general terms, massage is fun and safe. Fun in the sense that, every stroke will surely please and amuse a person. And safe, in view of the fact, that the massage therapist is well-trained. Regardless of the erotic review massage therapy advantages, massage therapy is still not a means to stand in for a medical care.

There are a lot of Luxury Spa’s all over the world but only in these countries offers erotic review: Manhattan; California: Los Angeles, San Francisco, San Diego; Illinois: Chicago; Washington, DC; Massachusetts: Boston; Pennsylvania: Philadelphia; Texas: Houston, Dallas; Georgia: Atlanta, New Jersey; England: London; Canada: Toronto, Montreal, Vancouver, Ottawa; Japan: Tokyo; and France: Paris. New York got the first spot on the Top 10 Luxury Spa Destination in the World when one of its spas received five-star rating in the Mobil Travel Guide. Las Vegas, Nevada topped three, and Miami, Florida on the sixth.

Margaret Fuller once said: Men for the sake of getting a living forget to live. True enough, there are a lot of things one can do in a day other than work. Maybe they believe that life is just a passing phase and we don’t have lots of time to be successful. Some may believe say that eventually, we are all going to die. Why waste time on sleeping when we can have a lot of it when we are dead. But many don’t realize that time is irreplaceable and unrepeatable. They failed to see the importance and value of what they have now than what they can have tomorrow. For the sake of having a good life, they failed to see the opportunity of having the best one.

A stressful life can play a part of a fruitless and incompetent performance. While things are getting more and more complicated each day, your problems may get complex. So, stress plus problems is equal incompetence and incompetence is equal to sexual problems plus arguments: with spouse, family, friends, co-workers, boss and illnesses. Remember that stress is a perception which may not actually reflect in reality. As a whole, keep a sharp lookout with your own stress and help others relieve their own. Stop one from over-stressing people to hold back arguments. So, have you had your alluring massage today?

Nanny Cameras For Spying on the Nanny

Every parent’s first priority is safeguarding their children against the many dangers of the world. Unfortunately for many parents they have no choice but to leave their children in the care of others for portions of the day which makes it hard to determine if their children are being well cared for. No matter how well you interview a nanny or caregiver, you can never really be sure that your child is safe in their care unless you turn to a nanny camera for peace of mind. A nanny cam allows you to see exactly what is going on in your home with your child while you are not home and ensures that your child is safe and cared for in a way that you approve of.

If you are one of the many parents that turn to a nanny to care for their children, chances are you have though about a nanny cam but may have dismissed the thought because they seem like an expensive undertaking. The truth is that a nanny cam that will allow you to see exactly how your child is being cared for and will provide you with priceless peace of mind can cost as little as one hundred dollars. Installation is also easy and most people can even install nanny cameras entirely by themselves from picking the location to setting up the transmitter and monitoring device.

If you are considering a nanny camera to protect your child, there are a few factors to consider before making your purchase. You do not have to spend a fortune or have your nanny camera professionally installed, but there are still many features that you may or may not need. Before you purchase your nanny camera think about if you want your nanny cam hidden, how you want to watch the video feed, where you want to place your nanny cam, and how many cameras you will need.

Many parents use nanny cameras that are hidden because then they get to see what a nanny is like when they think no one is watching. There are many types of nanny cams that are designed to be hidden and come in a variety of appearances such as radios, clocks, smoke detectors, plants and even toys. Small cameras can also easily be concealed even without being embedded in other objects.

When you buy a nanny camera you must also think about how you want to watch the video feed. Most cameras allow you to use a recording device that allows you to transmit the video to a recorded for later viewing as well as transmitting to a computer or TV so that you can view the video in real time. Whichever method you prefer make sure the nanny camera you choose is compatible with your preferred viewing method.

You will also want to decide if you want a wired or wireless camera. A wireless camera can be put in a variety of different places and is more discreet. Wired cameras will also work with a regular electrical outlet but a wireless camera relies on batteries that must be changed or recharged periodically.

Can Hidden/Nanny Cams be legally used in your home?

Currently, it is legal in all states to make a video-only recording of anything happening in your home, at any time, without informing anyone. Because the camera is hidden has no effect on this concept. As long as your camera is video only (no sound is being recorded), then you can do whatever you want with it, in your own home.

It is illegal to record someone’s voice without their permission in California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Illinois, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Oregon, Pennsylvania and Washington State. If you live in any of these states, be sure the hidden camera/nanny camera DOES NOT record sound before buying one.

Can Hidden/Nanny Cams be legally used in the workplace?

This depends on your employer’s intentions. The main issues are where the employer wants to put the cameras and why. Employers must have a reasonable, legitimate business reason for wanting to monitor employees by camera, such as for security reasons or to prevent theft. Some states have made certain areas of the workplace off-limits to cameras, such as restrooms.

A very important thing to know about cameras in your workplace is that your employer is required to let you know that they are there.

NOTE: Since laws change from state to state at any time, it is advisable to check your state laws before purchasing a nanny cam.

Hidden Cameras

More parents are considering using hidden in-home surveillance devices to watch their child’s caregiver. In the last 5 years it’s been reported that there’s been a 25% increase in sales of these devices–often called “nanny cams”. But, is it a good idea… or an invasion of privacy? Before making this decision, consider the following:

Advantages of Using a Nanny Cam

There are a variety of hidden cameras available on the market today. Some are wireless, some have built-in recording capabilities and can be hidden in almost any type of household item from a plant to a clock to a stuffed animal. Prices vary as well, from approximately $100 for a basic camera to more than $600 for digital systems, which can send video images live via computer or cell phone. Peace of mind and the need to feel confident with the style and quality of child care are reasons why some families opt to “spy” on their child’s provider.

Disadvantages of Using a Nanny Cam

Studies and polls illustrate that the majority of care providers don’t necessarily oppose the video taping of their child-caretaker interactions. They simply would like to know about it. It seems to be more a matter of trust and a sense of deception.

Other Uses for Video Surveillance

Hidden Cameras can be used for many applications other than child care. The devices can be used while your home is being cleaned, for occasional in-home sitter services, and for general security reasons. However, retail nanny cam providers indicate the leading reason continues to be to monitor full-time care providers.

While media stories have focused on potential abuse and inattention being reasons parents should consider using a nanny cam, some sitters have indicated a camera can provide a positive connection with the family members while they’re work. In addition, more daycare centers are installing cameras and provide parents with the ability to spot check and watch their child at the center from their workplace.

Is It Legal To Use A Hidden Camera?

It is indeed legal in all 50 states to use a hidden camera. However, it’s illegal to record speech without a person’s consent in the following 15 states: California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Illinois, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Oregon, Pennsylvania, and Washington.

Hidden Cameras

More parents are considering using hidden in-home surveillance devices to watch their child’s caregiver. In the last 5 years it’s been reported that there’s been a 25% increase in sales of these devices–often called “nanny cams”. But, is it a good idea… or an invasion of privacy? Before making this decision, consider the following:

Advantages of Using a Nanny Cam

There are a variety of hidden cameras available on the market today. Some are wireless, some have built-in recording capabilities and can be hidden in almost any type of household item from a plant to a clock to a stuffed animal. Prices vary as well, from approximately $100 for a basic camera to more than $600 for digital systems, which can send video images live via computer or cell phone. Peace of mind and the need to feel confident with the style and quality of child care are reasons why some families opt to “spy” on their child’s provider.

Disadvantages of Using a Nanny Cam

Studies and polls illustrate that the majority of care providers don’t necessarily oppose the video taping of their child-caretaker interactions. They simply would like to know about it. It seems to be more a matter of trust and a sense of deception.

Other Uses for Video Surveillance

Hidden Cameras can be used for many applications other than child care. The devices can be used while your home is being cleaned, for occasional in-home sitter services, and for general security reasons. However, retail nanny cam providers indicate the leading reason continues to be to monitor full-time care providers.

While media stories have focused on potential abuse and inattention being reasons parents should consider using a nanny cam, some sitters have indicated a camera can provide a positive connection with the family members while they’re work. In addition, more daycare centers are installing cameras and provide parents with the ability to spot check and watch their child at the center from their workplace.

Is It Legal To Use A Hidden Camera?

It is indeed legal in all 50 states to use a hidden camera. However, it’s illegal to record speech without a person’s consent in the following 15 states: California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Illinois, Louisiana, Maryland, Massachusetts, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Oregon, Pennsylvania, and Washington.